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Talk To An Upbeat Friend

Sometimes simply talking things out with a person who will listen without judging you or colluding with you is very helpful. This is particularly true when you are feeling stressed. It can help put things in perspective. However, do make sure the person you choose is compassionate, a good listener, as well as positive in their outlook towards life.

You may not want to discuss your stressful situation with someone who is really attached to their way of seeing things as they will probably give you a lecture. And we’ve all had plenty of those! Nor do you want to choose someone who is feeling overwhelmed and stressed themselves. Then you have a case of the blind leading the blind. Instead, choose someone who really cares for you and whose company you enjoy

Just Put On Your Walking Shoes

OK, OK, I can hear you. “Elizabeth, I’m already stressed out so why in the world would I want to add EXERCISE? All that huffing and puffing sounds stressful in and of itself.” The reason is this: exercise is the number-one tension tamer. It releases endorphins, which shut down your body’s stress response. These brain chemicals can also help you deal with depression if the short, dark days of winter happen to get to you.

So now I hear you complain about how exercise can make you feel tired… and it might for the first few days, but just imagine how CALM you will feel. And once you get into it you will be amazed at how much extra energy you actually have.

If you have gotten a bit of out the habit, here’s a neat trick. Tell yourself that all you are going to put on your walking clothes and shoes, and just stand outside. THAT’S ALL! If you feel like walking you can, but it is not mandatory. The next day tell yourself that all that is required is to walk to the end of the driveway and back. Each day increase the amount that you commit to just a tad. And before you know it you will be back in the swing of things.

And while you are exercising be aware of what you are focusing on. Try not to ruminate or think about your problems but instead notice things around you (if you are outdoors in nature) or listen to uplifting music.

And remember, you cannot control the moods of your massage clients, co-workers, family or friends, but you can control your response to them. With exercise, you are more relaxed and are able to anticipate rather than merely react to issues.

Watch A Funny Movie

Have you noticed that it is kind of hard to feel stressed or unhappy while you are laughing? So it may be a short-term fix, but sometimes a good belly laugh is enough to completely lift my spirits and make me feel better. At the very least it takes my mind off the stressful situation for a while. It also allows my body to create mood elevating chemicals which can do wonders on a dark, dreary winter night. I have also noticed that after a good laugh, I am actually able to think clearer too.

Last night I turned on the television and When Harry Met Sally was on. Now that movie has some funny scenes in it. (OK, so you know the one I mean. If you don’t you need to go and rent it.) Other funny favorites of mine are The Full Monty, My Big Fat Greek Wedding and My Cousin Vinny. What are some of yours?

Laughter IS great medicine. So rent a movie, invite some friends over…. and have fun!